Don’t Let It Pass You By: The Importance Of Living In The Moment

•November 29, 2013 • Leave a Comment
Don’t Let It Pass You By: The Importance Of Living In The Moment
Paul Hudson from elitedaily

How often do you get a chance to enjoy a cocktail? The answer is most likely: pretty often. However, the last time that you ordered that Bacardi and coke — a spirit that emphasizes the essence of being untamable — you most likely chugged it down without ever really tasting it, without actually enjoying it.

This is the way that most people live their lives. It’s not simply failing to take the time to enjoy every sip of your Bacardi rum, it’s failing to enjoy and to taste the moment that you are living in. Just as you need to slow down to get the full experience of the rum that has an history dating all the way back to 1862, you need to slow down to enjoy the life that you are living. In order to be untamable to others, you have to be capable of taming yourself.

It’s surprising how difficult it is to bring about simplicity. Simplicity isn’t about stripping down as much as possible, but stripping down the excess that surrounds the essence of a thing — whether it be a work of art, a product, yourself or the moment. You crowd your lives with the mundane, common and trivial, yet you expect to find happiness. You believe that the more you acquire, the more you consume, the happier you will be.

This is the sort of nonsense that has made true happiness impossible for the masses and has simultaneously begun to destroy the planet that you live on. When you are unhappy, you don’t allow yourselves time to find what’s behind the sadness and unrest — you mask your pain with…stuff.

When you feel bad, you go buy something. Or go eat something. Or go do something — anything, as long as it distracts you from your reality. Such distractions only make the situation worse. Of course, distractions are sometimes needed when your emotions are at their most unstable. However, once the peak of your despair subsides, you cannot hold onto the habit of distracting yourself from the world.

This is how you go from casually sipping a neat glass of Bacardi rum to chugging straight from the bottle. A little bit of distraction can be a great thing from time to time, but eventually you will remove all the joy from your life and will no longer find life enticing.

The key is to separate what goes on in your mind from what goes on in the world around you. It’s where you place the focus, your attention, that makes all the difference in life. There are two basic areas that one can focus on. You can either focus on the world inside your head — your thoughts and reflection — or you can focus on the world around you.

The beauty of the mind is both its ability to function with complexity, reflecting on our thoughts and then even reflecting on the thoughts reflecting our thoughts, and its ability to adopt simplicity. The simplicity comes when we drag our attention away from ourselves and place it upon the world bustling outside of us.

The world outside of us is what makes life worth living. It is beautiful in a way that most don’t come to understand. As Descartes put it so many years ago: “I think, therefore I am.” You know that you exist because you can think. But how do you know that the world around you is not much more than a concoction of your mind?

The truth is that you don’t know — no one does. However, instead of exploring the unknown, you focus on the one thing you know to exist: yourself. By remaining in your head and choosing to allow the outside world to pass you by, you are giving up your chance to explore one of the greatest uncertainties known to man: the possibility that you are simply living in a dream-world.

But there’s more to the benefits of averting your attention to the outside world versus the world in your head. The memories that you form, which form the storyline of your life, are almost exclusively formed in the physical world and not by the workings of your mind. You don’t remember the thought process; you remember the memory of the physical event.

You don’t remember the process of thinking; you remember doing. In a way, our lives are only worth the memories we make along the way. One day we will want to look back and relive our lives — relive the “good-ole days.” If you continue to fail to live in the moment then looking back will only frighten you; you’ll realize that you were too busy thinking about your thoughts to enjoy the world and the people around you.

If you want to live in the moment then you need to focus on the details. Look at and experience your surroundings. Take in the scenery, the people, the things moving around you. Focus on how you physically feel in the skin that you are living in. Take in the smells, the tastes, the sounds, the sights and the way the wind feels against your skin and in your hair.

Feel the way your clothes sit upon your skin. Smell your lover’s hair. Take in the details and then dissect them. You’ll begin to find beauty in the simplest of places and will begin to appreciate the little things. This is the only way to live in the moment: to appreciate the moment.

If you don’t accept the moment for the current state of reality and explore it, then you’re allowing life to pass you by. Next time you see the sun, really see it. Next time you smell the ocean, really smell it. Next time you feel the wind, really feel it. Next time you take a sip of Bacardi, really taste it.

Dining Experience @ Oasis Restaurant, Grand Hyatt Singapore.

•November 15, 2013 • Leave a Comment

Oasis Restaurant, located by the poolside of Grand Hyatt Singapore.
As most of you know, Hyatt’s restaurant are mostly open concept kitchens.
Oasis Restaurant features BBQ and again, they are a open concept restaurant.
While having a good time with your family and friends, you can experience
some culinary skills from the chefs as well!

Lets move on to the food,

Grilled Lamb Rib with garlic rosemary, mustard and onion marmalade $30
Presentation: 6/10
Quality of ingredients: 7/10
Taste: 7.5/10
When this dish was first served to me, it wasn’t appealing.
But to my surprise, the taste of the ribs were good. They were grilled well and seasoning was just nice.
For the price I am paying for, I think its worth it.
Chargrilled Portobello mushroom chicken burger $28
Presentation: 7/10
Quality of ingredients: 7/10
Taste: 7.5/10
A unique way of doing a burger! Mushrooms were done perfectly.
The mushrooms were juicy and combinations of the ingredients were executed well.
A healthier option from the menu.

Tips and advice: If you have kids with you, bring insect repellent to fight to mossies.
If you don’t have it, ask the servers or manager for it.
Overall I think their service is really good and ambience wise, its perfect for a chillout at night!

How Loyal Is Too Loyal? Sometimes, You Have To Put Yourself First

•November 15, 2013 • Leave a Comment
How Loyal Is Too Loyal? Sometimes, You Have To Put Yourself First
Credits to Lauren Davis from Elitedaily                   Nov 14, 10:50am

Honesty, loyalty, friendship, and wealth are all basic human instincts and desires. Each is individually viable, however when the elements become synergistic they increasingly amount to greed and avarice.

This shows that the human appetite for success and happiness can most certainly be viewed as a gift and a curse with its lush desires.

After all, the drive for success and appetency to achieve can propel a person to accomplish unimaginable accolades and skills.

Conversely, however, this drive can have a negative impact on a person who uses people to get ahead, causing an array of destruction, and worse on, bringing others tumbling down the rabbit hole right along with them. So, how loyal is too loyal?

Loyalty.

Merriam-Webster defines this concept as a feeling of strong support for someone or something. Most of us can at least relate to the someone aspect of this definition. We look for loyalty everywhere, at work, in our families, in our friends, even from our pets.

We even often use it as a measure of these relationships and hold the most loyal people to the highest esteem. However, is there a standard unit that we can use to assess this measurement?

Does loyalty mean that your co-worker clocked you in at work before you arrived so that you wouldn’t be written up for tardiness? Does it mean that your family member came to bond you of jail for your latest DUI?

Maybe it means that your best friend squealed on your boyfriend when he tried to make a pass at her? Or that your dog attacked the burglar that broke in to your home and potentially saved your life? All of these instances can be considered ‘loyalty’ per se, so the question that remains is; “how in debt are we to repay these loyal acts?”


Love.

We all know that a person can love someone without necessarily being loyal to him or her. If you don’t think this is true, let me explain it to you. Love and loyalty differ.

Consider a man who cheats on his wife, but never wants her to discover it. It is evident that he loves her and his family, however he simply cannot remain faithful and loyal.

How about a friend whom you’ve grown up with and who later befriends someone that you don’t particularly care for. Your friend loves you obviously, but is it loyal to be cronies with someone you hate? In my opinion, it’s the most difficult position in the world to love someone, and not trust him or her.

The intensity magnifies the closer that person is to you. Consider a mother who neglects her child, perhaps. The child blindly continues to love the mother, but at some point of cognition, no longer trusts her. Sadly, in most cases, the child grasps the hope that the mother will one day remedy all of the pain.


Accountability.

Now that we’ve drawn our own conclusions about the variations between loyalty and love, we can face the real issue here. Where do we draw the lines with our loved ones?

There are some who would argue that there are no lines to draw, and these people have my downright applause. If you would sacrifice your life for another, in spite of all indiscretions that they may have caused you, consider yourself a sacrificial lamb.

Most of us do not live in that completely selfless realm however, and I will be the first to admit. I watched “The Counselor” last weekend and Brad Pitt spoke some of the truest words I have ever heard.

He stated: “If you’re looking for a friend that would die for you, you have no friends.”

I was immensely shocked by the brutal honesty of the sentence. There are not many people in this world that would risk their lives for you, and the sooner you discover that, the better.

I personally measure my loyalty to someone based on the reciprocity I will receive. Again, the lambs would argue that you are to remain loyal to someone in spite of their afflictions to you. Though this sounds good, I refuse to keep delving in to crazyland with you.

I don’t know if any of you have watched the show, The First 48, but it’s overwhelmingly entertaining to me to see what criminals tell on one another when faced with jail time.

Regardless of the circumstances, most of the detainees give up the information with little effort from the police. It’s a game of survival.

Ask yourself this, “How loyal are you?” Would you assume the blame for a crime that someone else committed to protect your loyalty? Would you decline a promotion because you knew that your favorite co-worker really wanted it?

How about give away all of your money to save your friend’s home that was in foreclosure? Would you pull a John Q for a surgery you couldn’t afford on the dog that saved your life?

All of these questions are based on subjective opinions. No matter where you fall on the spectrum of loyalty, you should always consider the consequences of your actions and depict how they would influence your own life. It’s also possible that your loyal acts won’t even change their circumstances.

Consequently, your loyalty has become your slavery. So, how loyal are you? Only you can decipher the answer, but I can tell you that I personally am loyal enough to those deemed deserving, and not a fool to those that aren’t.

These Soccer Players Will Restore Your Faith In Humanity With Their Sportsmanship (Video)

•November 15, 2013 • Leave a Comment

By Julian Sonny of Elitedaily

Good sportsmanship may be a lost thing in sports today with sh*t talking and Twitter beef reaching an all time high, but during a recent soccer match in Saudi Arabia, we saw something that truly reminds us what playing fair is all about.

In a game between Al Nahdha and Al Ittihad, goalkeeper Tasir Al Antaif was set to clear the ball when he noticed his shoelaces became undone.

Wearing goalie gloves, he was hesitant in making a move when a Brazilian opponent by the name of Jobson stepped in to tie his shoes. The two shared a nice moment immediately after slapping hands, but the referee called a delay of game before Tasir could get the kick off.

Instead of taking over the possession, Al Ittihad players intentionally kicked the ball out of bounds to basically say f*ck you to the ref. This was especially impressive considering that the game was tied 2-2 going into the 60th minute. Well done, gentlemen.

The Alce Nero Cook Off!

•November 12, 2013 • Leave a Comment

Over the weekend, I was invited by GushCloud
to participate in The Alce Nero Blogger’s Cook Off!
This event was held at Food Playground!
Worried about preparing a candle light dinner or cooking for your family?
This is it! Food playground, where you can cook and have fun at the same time!
The name of thos place already tells you how fun it will be!
As a chef myself, I totally enjoyed my time here.
Best of all, I don’t have to do it in a HOT AND STUFFY kitchen.
This hearty playground is located at 4A Craig Road, Singapore, Singapore 089664

First off, we have cheerful Lena giving us a warm welcome!

Mr Style King needed some help there! What are teammates for right!
Rena, Cynthia and Mrstyleking were my teammates of the day.

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When we go to supermarkets nowadays, we are always confused of
which brand to buy, even for the sauces and olive oils.
Alce Nero, 100% Organic. Healthy yet tasty. For this bloggers cook off,
all the main ingredients we used were from Alce nero.
Personally, I thought they were pretty good.
I know some of you might think that organic
food products might turn out to be less tasty but to my surprise,
they were pretty delicious. Highly recommend it!

This is Noi, our friendly and helpful teacher of the day!

Noi, showing us how to make the pizza base.

It’s our turn! Let’s get into it now!

Who knew that we could use laksa leaves to make pesto!

My team’s laksa pesto spaghetti.

JOB DONE!

Tuna & sundried tomatoes pizza

organic ingredients Singapore

As most of you know that I have been doing Chinese food for quite awhile now.
Pizza and spaghetti might sound like a stranger to me. We just wanted to have fun
and enjoy this session but to our surprise…
We came in 1st!

It was an honour to meet all the food bloggers and it was a great experience for me!
Definitely will be back for more if I get the chance to! Looking forward to more
events like this! 3 Cheers for the organizers for putting in so much effort for this!

Signing off
P.S Culinary is not chemistry, it is an art.

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How You Can Make The Most Of The Time You Have

•October 27, 2013 • Leave a Comment

How You Can Make The Most Of The Time You Have

From EliteDaily, Paul Hudson.

We are slaves to time. We live within time. We schedule according to time. All that we experience, feel, think — all of it happens in time. At the same time, however, the way that we experience time itself is more of an illusion than anything else. The way that we experience time depends on how frequently we experience conscious thoughts.

The more frequently we experience them, the slower time seems to pass by. The less frequently we experience them, the quicker time passes by. This is why when we sleep it feels as if no time has elapsed. The same goes for when we find ourselves focused on physical activities that require less thought and more movement. Because time — at least in the sense that we experience it — greatly depends on us and our thoughts/actions, we can use this knowledge to our benefit.

Have you ever wished that a moment could last forever? Or that the time would pass by faster so that whatever you are doing can come to an end? Most of the time our minds seem to be on a sort of autopilot. We think, but what we think and how we think can often at times seem out of our control. What we can do, however, is learn to control our thoughts, controlling what we think about, how often we think about it, and if we would so choose, think about something else. It seems easy — I know.

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But how many times have you found yourself worrying, stressing or panicking? How many times have you felt down or depressed? All the things that you feel on an emotional level is a result of your thoughts and perception. Changing your perception, although it can be done, is difficult because it often involves some sort of epiphany or realization. Changing your thought process, on the other hand, is much easier and brings the same desired result.

I once had a friend who went through a very bad breakup. She thought that the person she was dating was her soul mate — that person ended up breaking her heart. Like us, she had a difficult time ‘forgetting’ about her now ex-boyfriend; the truth was that she couldn’t stop thinking about him. What did she do? She kept her mind busy with other things — physical activities to be specific — that allowed her to remove the guy from her thoughts.

Of course, thoughts like these often prove to be very persistent, but with enough redirection of her thoughts she was able to get over her ex completely. Had she allowed herself to dwell upon thoughts of him and their past then she would have likely never been able to let go of him.

That’s what it’s all about: redirection. You may not be able to stop your thoughts from ‘happening’ — although with enough meditation it is possible to a certain extent — but you can redirect them. Thoughts are like flowing rivers. You may not be able to stop them from flowing, but you can redirect their path to your benefit. Maybe you haven’t just broken up with a once loved one. But surely you experience thoughts from time to time that you wish you could block out. Instead of trying to block thoughts — because by trying to do so you are focusing on the thought itself — you have to deter yourself from that line of thinking by substituting other conscious thinking.

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This is why people take on hobbies or focus on their work when they feel that they need to clear their heads a bit. Physical activities often work best because they require in-the-moment thinking that doesn’t allow for anything but concentration. Puzzles are great — not necessarily having to be the cardboard kind. So are sports, games (why do you think video games are so popular among 30-year-olds?), movies, books, anything really as long as it allows you to focus on the present and not on the past or future.

We can redirect our thoughts in order to trick the system into thinking that our problems have dissipated. Sometimes issues can’t be resolved immediately — especially if they involve other people or the things that we do on a regular basis, like work.

If you can learn to redirect your thoughts instead of dwelling on them when they arouse an unpleasant emotional response then you will be — dare I say — happier. Those things that make us unhappiest have a tendency of weighing down on us throughout our days. Maybe you have a sick family member, maybe you hate your job, maybe you found out that you have a tumor — whatever the case, if there is nothing that you can do about it then you shouldn’t think about it. Even if you have problems that you believe to be fixable, you still shouldn’t allow the related thoughts to bring you down emotionally. The fact is that human beings function better when happier.

We are more outgoing, we are more attentive and intuitive, we are more willing to work and put in the necessary hours to get things done. If we have problems that we can fix, giving ourselves room to breathe without those thoughts will allow us to be more productive when we do decide to address the matter. If we have issues that are actually out of our control — of which few exist — then we can use redirection to make our existence more pleasant.

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American photographer Angelo Merendino photographed every stage his girlfriend went through in her battle with cancer

•October 24, 2013 • Leave a Comment

American photographer Angelo Merendino photographed every stage his girlfriend went through in her battle with cancer