How To Heal A Broken Heart (Or At Least Try To)

•October 22, 2013 • 1 Comment

How To Heal A Broken Heart (Or At Least Try To)

From Elite Daily : Lauren Martin 

There’s no known pain on this earth worse than that of a broken heart. No matter what the scholars say, there is a physical pain involved in having your heart ripped in two. A pain that stays with you long past the superficial wounds of a physical blow. Unlike a real blow to the chest or punch to the gut, this pain doesn’t go away. It stays with you, day after day, becoming a chronic ache.

When someone you love rips your heart out, there is nothing to do but weep and try to move on. Because life is pain and heartache is just another hard truth we must learn to face. Because there is no greater emotion than love and no greater sorrow than loss. But you must try to move on, getting over the relationship similar to how you mourn a death.

“People do not die from suicide, they die from sadness”


I’m not sure where the love goes when it ends, but there is a deep ache left in its place. You never realized how powerful a person was until he or she has left you so broken and alone.


There are only so many things your friends and family can help you with. This is a healing process that only you can endure, alone. You must learn to live with the pain and find ways to decrease the deep aching in the very depths of your bones. There is no sure way to get over a love, but there are ways to try and make life a little more tolerable.

Let Yourself Mourn


Give yourself a period of time to feel sad. It’s important to wallow in the pain, to let it overcome you, because only after you have accepted it and understood it, can you get rid of it. Let yourself bask in the despair.

Get Drunk


It’s morphine for the soul. The only thing that will help you get through the initial days of the breakup is getting drunk. You must numb yourself through the first night, because sleeping alone will become a very scary and intolerable feat. Let the alcohol bring all the toxins to the surface.

Get Rid Of Social Media


Whether you delete your Facebook or block them, it’s important that you sever those cyber ties and cut off all contact. You are not friends anymore, you don’t know this person anymore. They are dead to you. Only emotional cutters will allow themselves to watch the new life of an ex.

Take Up Exercise


Every time you feel yourself getting upset or thinking about it, get in the habit of putting on sneakers and running it out. There is nothing that will clear your mind more than running. Start finding something to channel your pain, turning it into a more raw physical type of aching.

Throw Yourself Into Work


Your work should become your new relationship. It’s stable, comfortable and now you have the time to give it more attention. Let it envelop you, take up all your free time and your energy. Let it wear you out so that when you get home you don’t have time to remember the pain.

Gather Friends


Start hanging out with your friends more, use them as crutches. They are a good distraction even if they can never truly stop the pain. They will be able to take your mind off it, maybe.

Find A Hobby


Now is the time to start making yourself into a better person. You must learn to grow from this pain and that involves finding things to fill the time you would have been spending in the relationship. Do all the things you never had time for before. But more importantly, renew yourself.

Look For Simple Beauties


Let this pain cleanse you and open you to a new world. You have been through one of the most painful experiences you will ever know and with that comes compassion and a deeper level of understanding the world. Start looking at things differently, appreciating the small parts of life.

Find Someone Else


It’s not fair to bring your pain into a new relationship. But once you have begun healing and the pain becomes a more distant ache, it’s time to find someone else. It really does take loving someone else to get over a first love.

Time Heals All Wounds


Let time take its course and slowly heal you…because in the end, that’s all you can do.


Accepting Who You Are And Learning To Love Being Alone Are Essential To A Happy Life

•September 27, 2013 • 1 Comment

Accepting Who You Are And Learning To Love Being Alone Are Essential To A Happy Life

Written by Kara Nesbitt from Elitedaily. An excellent article

Over the course of time, you will learn that many people you thought would always be there will soon disappear. You will be let down time and time again, and eventually discover that the only constant in life is change.

With each passing day, people begin new relationships, while others end old ones. There are relationships that end well, and there are relationships that end poorly, with contrasting emotions leading the way. Some of these relationships will be major turning points in your life; some of them might either completely destroy you, or save you.

Putting trust into a person and giving them your dedication is one of the scariest things in life. Devoting your time and emotions, revealing your most personal qualities and background, and believing that this one person will not betray you or shame you for any of it, is a courageous step to take.

One secret could define your friendship; one mistake could end it all. It takes years to build trust and seconds to break it. The reason forming a relationship with someone and building the foundation for that relationship is so difficult is because once we have been hurt, we will never forget that pain – no matter what.

I have watched many of my own personal relationships come to a halting close. New chapters in my life have been slowly written time and time again. My social circle went from many, to a few that are worthy of my trust and loyalty. It took numerous occasions and difficult realizations for me to learn to accept the things that have happened in my life, and to accept what it is now for what it is.

Accepting who I used to be and the mistakes I made as that person, and not letting those mistakes define who I am today. Forgiving those who hurt me and who affected my life in negative ways. They were all fears to conquer, but I overcame them with perseverance. These were the first steps to my salvation.


The next step was realizing that it is okay to be alone. Growing up, if I did not have something to do on a Friday or Saturday night, I was blasting “I’m Just a Kid” by Simple Plan, crying in the dark and cursing off every single person that didn’t ask me to hang out. I’m happy to say that I’ve come a long way since then, and I have learned to appreciate solitude. Sitting in the middle of the ocean on a surf board and just letting the waves take me away, or sitting in a field alone and looking at the stars for long periods of time, are some of my favorites thing to do in the world.

“I think it’s very healthy to spend time alone. You need to know how to be alone and not be defined by another person.” – Oscar Wilde

I have also realized that getting lost in thoughts and in physicality is a beautiful thing. Over the years, I have learned that losing yourself and finding your way back makes the experience that much better. No matter what age you are, when you have a problem, or what that problem is, just go for a walk or drive and get lost. You will have sorted out your mind and troubles by the time you find your way back.

There is no better time than now for you to allow yourself to be happy. It is time to embrace yourself and all that you have to offer. Be alone; give yourself the chance to learn about yourself, expand your soul and allow yourself to grow. Enable each chapter of your life to help you become a better you. Press forward, putting one foot in front of the other, until you are finally so overwhelmingly confident that you can look back, and see that you have climbed mountains.

If I Could Tell My Adolescent Self What I Know Now

•September 25, 2013 • Leave a Comment

If I Could Tell My Adolescent Self What I Know Now

From EliteDaily, LENA OH. A very good and true article! MUST READ!

As I turned 22 yesterday, I’m sitting here in awe, reflecting on my life. When I was a kid, I couldn’t wait to grow up. But now that I’m growing up, I wish I wasn’t. My life has been full of contradictions: I’ve witnessed people with nothing smile, and those with everything cry. I’ve seen myself chase the ones who ignore me, but I’ve also ignored the ones who adored me.

I’ve witnessed too many ironies in my life and have gone through painful experiences. Despite learning from these mistakes, I wish I could tell my young self what I know now. And if some genius happens to create a time machine in my lifetime, these are the things that I’d say:

People will come and go.

I think until recently, I’ve had difficulty accepting this fact. Certain people in your life will come and go: friends, significant others, colleagues, classmates, etc. I used to dwell on the past through old posts from Facebook timelines, old pictures, old letters, old videos, or songs that would instantly remind me of some person, place, time period, or memory. And after viewing those things, I’d recall all the memories that I had with that particular person, and although good, the nostalgia stung my heart a bit.

I’d wonder about what those people are doing now, what they’ve been up to, what made us drift, or if our dynamic could ever be the same again. And with certain people, it may be a blessing and a relief that they are no longer in my life, but with others, I had wished that our paths would align again.

Paradoxically, the memories made me sad and happy all at the same time. But if I could tell my young self what I know now, I’d remind her that this is just a natural process in life. Sometimes it’s controllable, but other times, it’s out of our power and there’s a time to let go. People that you were once inseparable from are now merely strangers. But if you and that person (whomever it may be) are meant to be in each other’s lives, it’ll happen when it’s the right time.


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You will meet several “prince charmings” before you find your king.

I’ve been in several relationships, each wondering if this guy would be the “one”. And whether I broke it off or he broke it off, there would always be disappointment in the end. Breakups are inevitable, and everyone will go through them at least once in their lifetime. It’s a difficult period, but it’ll help you grow.

You’ll learn more about yourself and what you want in a man (or even don’t want). Don’t ever chase after a man, either. It’s reasonable to fight for the one you love, but don’t ever chase. A man will go where he wants to go, and stay if he wants to stay. And even if he does give in and comes back, that doesn’t help. You should be with a man, not because you were able to convince him, but because you didn’t need to. Don’t ever settle for less than what you deserve, or else you’ll get even less than what you settled for. You are no man’s consolation prize.

Be selfish when it comes to your happiness.

When I say to be selfish when it comes to your happiness, I don’t mean if it hurts other people (i.e. stealing, deception). I mean to be selfish when other people rob you of the opportunity to be happy. If a man is toying with your heart, end it civilly and let him go. You don’t deserve to spend your nights crying. There are other people in the world who love you and want the best for you. Learn to love yourself and don’t ever let anyone keep you from the pursuit of happiness that you’re entitled to.

I once directed all my passion and emotions to the wrong things and wrong people, until I realized how much more fulfilling my life would be if I rerouted that energy towards my dreams, ambitions, and aspirations. And as a result, I was blessed beyond description with new opportunities. I only wish I had implemented this advice sooner in my life.

Appreciate your parents and let them know that you love them as often as you can.

For every second of my 22 years of life, my parents have been there. You may not appreciate them when you’re younger, but the older you get, the more you realize how much sacrifice, hard work, and dedication, these two people have given to give you the best opportunities in your life. The reason I graduated with a bachelor’s degree this year is because of these two people. I’d be nothing without them.

So when they nag about studying and valuing your education, or discipline you for lying, know that it’s because they love you and want you to be a good person of character, who makes a positive difference in this world. Your parents are the only people who will bust their asses to provide the best life for you.

Love them while they’re still alive, because when you’re old and they’re gone, you’ll regret not appreciating them enough. So stay on the phone for a few extra minutes; don’t be so eager to hang up or leave the house to go out with your friends. Cook them dinner; do some extra chores around the house. Do small things to make it easier for them to breathe.



There are so many people who have hurt me. But on the other hand, there are so many people that I have hurt, as well. The most precious gift that I’ve ever received is grace and mercy. When I made mistakes and was forgiven, I felt such a relief to know that the bad blood was gone. Reciprocate love and kindness.

How can you expect forgiveness from others, when you can’t do the same? That girl at school who mistreated you out of jealousy? Forgive. The friend who deceived and backstabbed you? Forgive. Be compassionate, show mercy and love this person, even when they least deserve it. That’s actually when they need it the most.

It’s a sign of maturity when you understand someone has hurt you, yet you still feel the power to wish them the best. Keep on loving them. I promise you’ll eventually make even a cold, unemotional person cry. Love those around you unconditionally and relentlessly.

If you have a good relationship/friendship, don’t lose it over your pride.

Sometimes, it’s good to stand up for yourself and keep your pride. But in other circumstances, being too prideful can end up hurting you. Apologizing doesn’t always mean that you’re at fault and are wrong. Sometimes, it just shows that you value the relationship with the other person more than you value holding onto your pride and ego.

Be productive; don’t be so lazy; don’t procrastinate.

I wish I could’ve emphasized this to my younger self. I spent all my precious time on insignificant things, and I will never get that time back. Wake up early and do what you need to do. Seize your day and own it! Wake up a few minutes earlier to get your day started. Do simple things, like leaving early so that you don’t hit traffic.

What a waste of a precious day to be spent sitting in traffic. Don’t be so lazy about small things like charging your phone or driving until your gas meter is past empty. Nothing gives me more anxiety than when my phone battery is at less than 10 percent, or when I’m paranoid that my car is going to stop on the freeway.

Bad company corrupts good character.

Don’t give into peer pressure. Even if you’re the most independent person and think you can make your own decisions for yourself, habits from the people around you can desensitize you. You know it’s not right to drink and drive. So don’t, even if your friends do it. You vowed as a kid to never get into drugs, so be cautious about being friends with people who do it so nonchalantly.

Just because some girls call themselves “bad bitches” doesn’t mean you should label yourself as so. Label yourself a beautiful, extraordinary, unique woman. You will realize that your reputation will be the most important thing. Surround yourself with good influences.


Be a decent human being.

No matter what your status is, acknowledge the small things people do for you. Nothing annoys me more than when people think they’re entitled. Thank the person that takes the time to hold your door open for you, or when they let you get into their crowded lane on the road. Life is hard for everyone. We all have struggles; we all have worries.

We’re all trying to make it. No decent human being should build his or her happiness on another person’s pain. Treat others the way you want to be treated. Don’t have a cold, unsympathetic heart. Be kind to your waiter, or to the janitor at your school. Nothing is worse than an ungrateful person. Evaluate yourself, be respectful, and stay humble.

Be grateful for everything.

Big or small, appreciate the things that you’re blessed with, whether it’s good health, an opportunity to have an education, your family, your friends, the roof over your head, or something as simple as an umbrella when it’s raining. I’m grateful and thankful for the sounds of laughter coming from the people I love in my life. When you remind yourself what you’re blessed with (rather than what you wish you had), you end up living a more fulfilling life.

Don’t listen to Drake’s Take Care album after midnight.

It’s a good album, but you’ll have sleepless nights, and late night thoughts are the worst.

Don’t have expectations.

They can lead to disappointment. Have goals and dreams, but don’t have expectations. Sometimes we expect more from others just because we would be willing to do that much for them, but that’s what leads to disappointment. Do things for others without expecting anything in return. That way when you do get something, you’ll be happy, but if you don’t get anything, you’ll be content, as well.


Don’t hold back on your dreams because you’re embarrassed about what people will say.

I wanted so badly to do many things in my life. I held back, though, because I was worried about what my peers would say. As a result, I gave up those opportunities and ended up witnessing other people live the life that I dreamed of. Go after the passions and aspirations that you have in your life now. You do only live once, so why not live the life you dream of?

You’ll feel the most pain when you witness good people go through the worst bullsh*t.

When you watch your mom and dad work hard for what they have and it crumbles before their eyes, you’ll feel the most pain. When you watch your grandparents feel the repercussions of backaches and leg problems from decades of working hard labor jobs, you’ll feel the most pain. When you witness an innocent child born with a disability that they didn’t ask for, you’ll feel the most pain. The best solution to that is to remind these people that they’re precious and loved.

The secret to living a happy life is to let go.

Let go of pain; let go of anger; let go of regret; let go of resentment; let go of the past; let go of mistakes; let go of the ex; let go of the disappointment. Surrender it all. Why hold onto the negatives? You don’t have room for it. You want to clear out the junk to make room for the good things. And in life, it’s the same principle. If you hold onto all the pain and negativity, you’re only preventing room for the good things to enter your life. There is always a purpose or reason why certain people are removed from your life.

Think about that when you decide to hold onto, or chase after, them. Cut out the negativity. It’s a waste of space in your heart and life. How amazing is it to stay silent when someone expects you to lash out in anger? How wonderful is it to laugh when someone believes that you are going to shed tears from pain? Let go of the things that hold you back, and you’ll realize how truly beautiful your life really is.

The 5 Types Of Guys Every Woman Should Avoid In The Dating World

•September 24, 2013 • 2 Comments

The 5 Types Of Guys Every Woman Should Avoid In The Dating World

From Elitedaily •  • 

Although they say you should never judge a book by its cover, they never say anything about judging it after you read a little bit. On that same idea, think about how much time, energy and heartache you could save if you could determine if the guy you’re dating is, indeed, relationship material?

The first step in having an amazing and healthy relationship is to choose wisely. You can’t make the right decisions unless you know what to look for, thus getting out or avoiding a situation before you get in too deep and wind up heartbroken.

This article is going to focus on the certain types of guys that will always spell trouble and almost never be the right prospects for a healthy and successful relationship.

The One Who Gets Intimate Too Soon

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If your guy is overly eager, it’s never a good sign. For one, he may act as if he’s extremely into you just to get you into bed as soon as possible. He’s the kind of guy that looks deep into your eyes and tells you he never felt like this with any girl before, especially this early in. This guy comes across as incredibly affectionate and might confuse even the most wary of women. If he’s the player type, this is all an act to get you into bed.

Alternatively, he might be a guy that’s just not over his last girlfriend. This can be spotted quickly if the guy starts to act as your boyfriend after only a couple of dates. This behavior isn’t explicative of his feelings, but more of the fact that he misses being in a relationship.

Finally, if he’s not a player or a guy who’s just getting out of a relationship, this guy might have some serious attachment issues or self-esteem problems. Either way, he spells trouble.

What to do if you’re dating him right now? It’s time to make the right decision and pump the breaks on this relationship. Don’t see him every time he asks; don’t get carried away with all sorts of cuddly feelings (“I’m so crazy about you”); try to keep things on the light side. If you’ve just started dating him, try to see him a maximum of two to three times a week. If he’s this kind of guy, he’s going to pressure you to see him more often. You have to put your foot down and not fall into this guy’s ploy.

You’ll know he has issues if he’s not respecting your decision to spend less time together. If he whines, guilt trips you, begs, or pouts, then there’s clearly something wrong. Remember, the man you’re dating should ALWAYS respect your boundaries.

The Guy With Obvious Commitment Issues


This is the guy that tells you he doesn’t want a relationship right off the bat, the guy that can’t/won’t call you his girlfriend when it’s way overdue, or the guy that’s over 30 and hasn’t had at least two serious relationships (or one very serious, 5+ years relationship).

It really doesn’t matter what their issues are, the bottom line is that this guy can’t see himself in a relationship with YOU. DO NOT try to change his mind, turn him around, or make him want it. You’re just going to waste your time.

What to do if you’re dating him right now? You need to set things straight and leave if he won’t change. Tell him something along the lines of “Look, I’m not into the whole casual dating thing. It was great getting to know you, but I’m looking for something more serious.” If he really wants to be with you, he will make the commitment, if not, leaving him will be the best thing you’ll ever do. Do not make the mistake of trying to stick around to show him how amazing you are because it will get you nowhere.

Don’t hurt his feelings; just be honest about your desires. Just like neediness is one of the biggest turn-offs for men, self-respect is one of the biggest turn-ons. Respect yourself, and don’t be afraid to leave if the other person isn’t ready to give you what you want.

The Guy That Hates His Job And/Or Doesn’t Know What He Wants To Do With His Life

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When searching for a man, you should always look for confidence, ambition and stability. You can do without one of these qualities but never without two.

Studies have proven that compared to women, who gain their sense of self-esteem and worth from their interpersonal relationships, men assess their value based on their job or ability to have an impact on the world. If a man feels like he isn’t being productive, he will feel like a failure. A man that feels like a failure is an extremely difficult person.

If a man hates his job from every point of view, he may not have a high level of confidence, but this same guy is stable (because he has a job) and might have an ambition to change that.

A guy that doesn’t have a job and doesn’t know what he’s going to do with his life is a guy that will be too focused on himself and too damn lazy. He won’t have the drive to tune into your needs and desires. This guy will just bring you down with his negativity and will envy you if you seem to have everything together. Don’t look for the loving and caring partner here because you’re not going to find him.

What to do if you’re dating him right now? Do not tell him to get a job, change his job, or offer any other career or life advice. It will only make him feel more like a loser.

They key here is to make him feel better about himself in other areas of his life. The more you make him feel better, the more he’ll want to keep you around. He’ll soon realize how important you are in his life and will work to find his cause (or a better job) in order to KEEP YOU.

His “change” can take a very long time, which is why you should take him as he IS and not expect much change in the future. If you’re ok with how he is right now, you’ve made your choice, if you want a man that is ambitious, confident and stable in the new, then drop this guy and try to find someone better. If you can motivate him to change, that’s great, but if you lose ten years of your life with a lazy and confused man, don’t say you weren’t warned.

The Starving Artist (Hipster)


This is probably the most difficult one of the bunch since it’s almost impossible to read him. He can go from loving to hateful within minutes, and you’ll never understand why. If you give him too much attention, you’ll scare him. If you give him too little attention, he’ll be too afraid to make any moves. Show him the right amount of attention and he’ll just get bored.

These guys tend to create goddess illusions of the women they’re dating, and when time passes, and no women is able to live up to those expectations, they just vanish. I blame this behavior on their lack of intellect and ability to rationalize their feelings (as most men often do).

What to do if you’re dating him right now? I wouldn’t worry too much about where this is going, as this guy is usually worse off than the jobless guy, and it will probably take him at least double the time it takes the other guy to get his act together (if he ever does).

If you find yourself involved with such a guy, have your fun, then be done with it. Keep things casual, hope that the sex is good, but don’t get involved emotionally. If it’s really meant to be, then you’ll make it be, but chances are, that’s not really going to happen.

The Guys Who’s Always In A Relationship


Take extreme caution when dating a guy that goes from one relationship to the next without any time in between. The best place for a person to hide from his or her self is in a relationship. Understanding this is very important because this guy has a lot of unresolved issues and painful feelings buried deep down inside him.

There’s a big chance that he has never actually healed from his past relationships and hasn’t had a chance to develop an identity outside of a relationship. The stranger thing is that he has probably reached a point in which he only sees himself only through the eyes of the person he’s in a relationship with, and has probably shaped his self-image purely based on what is reflected back at him.

What to do if you’re dating him right now? Take it slow and keep an open mind. Do not commit or become official too soon (first few months of dating). Give him the space, which he doesn’t know he needs, to work through all those residual feelings or whatever else he has lingering from his last girlfriend (and the ones before).

If he starts to pressure you, let him know that since he just came out of relationship, you want to take it slow. If he asks a lot of questions, tell him that you’re afraid he might still have feelings for the ex and he should take a few weeks to himself if he wants.

You might think that letting go of a guy that has potential is a bad idea but believe me, if he really has potential he will take those weeks off and come back to you. Quality men will never let quality women slip from their fingers and will often do whatever is necessary to get that quality woman.

20 best ways to manage your time in your 20s

•September 24, 2013 • Leave a Comment

The 20 Best Ways To Manage Your Time In Your 20s

Yet another great post from Ashley Fern! #Elitedaily

The time spent in our twenties might just be the most influential in regard to our futures. But what do we know? We’re only in our twenties, right? Regardless, this is undoubtedly the time to establish a lifestyle that will carry into our later years. We need to use this time to kick the bad habits we’ve managed to accrue until this point and replace them with more beneficial ones.

It’s that time in your life when you need to start making adjustments and recognizing what works for you and what does not. Chances are you are dabbling in different jobs, so this is the perfect time to figure these things out. When you finally do reach your dream career, you will have all the characteristics and traits necessary to succeed in whatever industry you choose.

Managing your time in your 20s is a difficult task, as it really is at any age. There never seem to be enough hours in the day, but if you learn how to properly manage the hours you do have, the results may astonish you.

Let’s take a look at the 20 best ways to manage your time in your 20s:

1. Block all social media during the work day, limit using it as much as possible

There’s no better way to procrastinate than by browsing social media. One minute you are stalking your ex and the next you’re on their college roommate’s sister’s best friend’s Facebook page. Social media sites know no limits and you can literally get sucked in for hours and not even realize it. So limit your usage of social media in general. Not only is it a huge time killer, but when you think about it, what do you ever really get out of it? Can you think of one great social media experience that you had that is considered unforgettable? Of course not, looking back on it, you realize how it is just one big blur. The time spent on social media is time you never get back.

2. Create a schedule/routine

By creating a schedule, you can better prepare yourself for the weeks ahead. It allows you to put all your commitments in front of you so that you may realize the time you can dedicate to each obligation. It also helps to prioritize, as you are picking and choosing what you have time for. When there is a routine in front of you, you are mentally committed to get things done rather than comprising your day with one-off actions that you just do when you feel like it. Substitute those arbitrary actions with an actual system and you will find yourself functioning better.

3. Don’t waste your weekends being hungover

Going out is great and a ton of fun, I’d be lying if I said otherwise. Try and pace yourself so that when you wake up in the morning, you don’t have an excessively pounding headache. Nothing prevents productivity quite like a hangover does. Your weekends are when you typically have your most free time, so try and capitalize on it instead of coddling your head while in the fetal position.

4. Don’t over promise and under deliver

It’s far too easy to say yes to an idea that sounds great in theory. It’s a whole different ball game, however, if you are just agreeing to agree without any intention of following through. The person you are committing to believes that you are going to follow through on your promise, so try not to be selfish and waste another person’s time. Commit to plans you only intend on keeping and save yourself the stress. Don’t commit to things that you truly don’t feel like being a part of; make sure you’re not just doing these things because of politics.

5. Reserve time for yourself

Preserve your mental health by recognizing when it’s time to take a break and separate yourself from the anxieties life brings. Get your Netflix on, go to the beach or take some naps. It’s beyond beneficial to spend some time alone and reflect on the choices and decisions you have been making as of late. Decide if that’s the person you want to be or if changes need to be made.

6. Prioritize your sh*t

Don’t waste time on things that are of little importance to you. Compare the items on your to-do list and start checking things off in order of their relevance. If something is more time sensitive than something else, then it is best to work on that task first. Re-upping your birth control might be more important than that “Pretty Little Liars” marathon you were planning. Sounds simple enough, doesn’t it? Priorities are everything and until you recognize which ones are most important in your life then you will be wasting your time.


7. Set daily goals/tasks

When you wake up in the morning, whether or not you feel like P.Diddy, it’s extremely productive to know what you want to set out and accomplish that day. This will help to prepare your schedule and allow you to make adjustments in real time. The more you consistently conquer, the better it will feel when you set new and tougher goals for yourself.

8. Make deadlines

By creating deadlines for yourself, you can hope to avoid the trap of procrastination. By making yourself aware of when tasks need to be completed, you can make a schedule that coincides with your daily tasks in order to complete it on time and to the best of your ability.

9. Don’t go out every night

While going out is a great way to relieve stress, going out seven days a week isn’t good for your health, no matter how old you are (or no matter how cool it looks on your Instagram). Your sleep cycle will become disrupted and let me tell you firsthand, no one wants to hear your raspy voice that drinking brings on.

10. Get good rest

Sleep is one of the most important things you need in order to maintain good mental health. You need at least 7 hours to function throughout the day. Nothing is harder than trying to concentrate when you got fewer than 5 hours of sleep the night before. It’s not healthy to substitute 3-5 cups of coffee you are most likely downing to make up for the lack of sleep.

11. Get a planner

Whether this is a physical notebook or an application for your phone, writing things down helps to get them done. By creating a visual of the tasks you need to complete, you can plan out a constructive schedule. It also helps you to remember to do things if you write them down.

12. Don’t procrastinate

Procrastination leads to rushing and rushing leads to mistakes. Give yourself ample time to complete a task so that it is done to the best of its ability. When you wait until the last minute, you have to cut corners as you don’t have time to work in a meticulous fashion. Save yourself the stress and anxiety of rushing and plan out your projects.


13. Delegate / outsource

To make the most of working in an office, try and delegate responsibility to the appropriate parties. Do not make the mistake of taking on everyone’s responsibility when the work can be appropriately divided. This saves everyone time and allows work to be completed in the most efficient manner possible.

14. Focus on one thing at a time before moving on

When you try to accomplish more than one task at a time, you detract from your focus and distract yourself. By having your attention needed in more than one place, you may end up making careless mistakes. Try and fully immerse yourself in one task before moving on to the next.

15. Learn to say no

Stop saying yes to every single opportunity! All you are going to do is stress yourself over the anxiety of a multitude of plans. Learn when to say no, it’s okay to have other (more pressing) obligations, people won’t hold it against you.


16. Don’t commit to more than one TV show

Netflix addiction is actually a problem. I mean they just have every single season of essentially every great show ever made available at the tips of your fingers. There’s no more waiting weeks at a time to find out if your favorite character died or got dumped. Try not to have more than one show going for you at a time because hours can pass without you even realizing it.

17. Work out

Exercising helps to keep your mind at ease while keeping you focused. It reinforces the importance of establishing a routine, something that can be applied to multiple aspects of a person’s life. You want to maintain a healthy lifestyle, so try your hardest to get some sort of physical activity involved during the week. It also doesn’t hurt to look good.

18. Get up early

If you don’t think you can get to everything you need to during the day, you may need to wake up earlier. At first this will be difficult, but with anything in life, there is an adjustment period. By waking up earlier, you can get to more tasks. This may mean reducing the amount of partying you do, but in the long run, it’ll be worth it.


19. Don’t date a high maintenance person

The worst situation you could ever get yourself in is to date someone who is basically out of his or her mind. Dating a high maintenance person can be emotionally taxing and draining and basically leave you without energy for anything else. You will constantly find yourself distracted and unable to focus on anything besides the problems in your relationship. Do yourself a favor and lose the baggage.

20. No unnecessary drama

Do not waste your time dealing with people who only bring negativity into your life. You need to surround yourself with people who are constantly pushing themselves for the better. If you consistently surrounding yourself with negative people, it will hinder your progression in life. Why choose to spend time with people that are holding you back when you can surround yourself with people who can elevate you? Think back to all the drama you have dealt with in your life and think about if it really has any affect on your life now. The answer to that question is usually no and the time put into that drama is just not worth it.

A Career will be there in 5 years, your relationship won’t.

•September 23, 2013 • 1 Comment

A career will be there in 5 years, your relationship won’t.


Let’s be frank, relationships in our generation just don’t last. This is both a gift and a curse, but it is the honest truth. So don’t waste your time trying to hold on to something that won’t work. Focus on your career as it will prove to last longer than any relationship you will ever experience in your 20s. Build a solid foundation that will last you the rest of your life, people come and go, but your bank account will always be there.

Quoted from EliteDaily, Eddie Cuffin

The Reasons Why Finding Love In Your 20s Is Impossible

•September 17, 2013 • 1 Comment

The Reasons Why Finding Love In Your 20s Is Impossible

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There is no time more crucial to the outcome of your life quite like your 20s. This is our time to make mistakes, learn and set ourselves up for the rest of our lives. It is without a doubt that we will make some bad decisions during this time, but so long as we take these experiences and learn from them, we should turn out fine.

One of the biggest problems our ADD generation has is actually believing that falling in love in your 20s is a possible feat. Let’s be honest, times have changed and relationships are no longer what they used to be. Love has become just a happy thought in the depths of our minds.

Finding love in your 20s is just impossible and chasing something that doesn’t exist is a complete waste of your time. Don’t put yourself in a bubble and attempt to make something that doesn’t exist work, you will just prolong the process. Get real and be honest with yourself. Here are the reasons why finding love in your 20s is impossible:

Who could say ‘No’ to a Snapchat?


You’re casually sitting at a cafe and your Snapchat notification goes off. You know what awaits you and the temptation is just too much to handle. Nothing like a quick pair of tits to uplift your day. I don’t think any straight man has ever complained about seeing some tits throughout his day.

No one dreams about a stay at home mom in the suburbs when they can have a mistress waiting in their penthouse.

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Life is all about enjoyment and there is nothing less exciting than coming home to the same thing every night. While it is comforting to know that nothing may change drastically, the same lifeless missionary sex can get quite boring. You perform your day-to-day actions better knowing that at the end of the night you have mistress waiting for you to succumb to your every wish.

Social Media is a catch-22.

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It’s either she has a Facebook and has perfected the art of stalking and Facebook whoring or doesn’t have a Facebook at all, which is probably the scariest thing ever. Of course, it’s more comforting to see 3,000 friends and 500 photos than not to know who she associates herself with at all. It’s scary knowing that you can’t see her social life aside from the times you are actually physically with her.

No matter how many times you eat the box, it will never get you a McLaren.


Eating the box is a lose-lose situation. Aside from the time you waste pleasing her, the most you can ever get back out of this situation is head or sex. There are no other returns that you can look forward to. It’s different for a girl, she can suck the right man’s dick and never have to do anything else for the rest of her life, eating the box has never had such returns.

You are subjecting yourself to the worst possible investment.

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Relationships only lead to one thing: babies. A baby in your 20s has to be one of the worst things that can happen to you financially. Do you understand how expensive diapers are? Not only that but losing sleep will lead to a lackluster performance in the office. You can’t have anything get in the way of your road to success, especially not a baby.

Unfortunately, you can’t IPO great unprotected sex.


No matter how great the raw sex is, there is no way you can sell it on the NASDAQ. The time you invest in the relationship just for the great raw sex could be used to build up your own company and become something. No amount of sex can compare to the moment of seeing your company ticker on the stock exchange. Trust us, the birds will flock in once the money comes.

Keeping your phone for more than 6 months is difficult and you’re telling yourself you’re going to keep a relationship for longer?

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Get real with yourself. This generation can’t sit through a full movie, what makes you think you’re going to be able to pay attention to someone for a long time? Telling yourself it’s going to work out is only prolonging the disappointment. Stay true to yourself and realize that relationships don’t work out.

Because somewhere in the world, this exists.


No matter how great your personality and how much they tell you they love you, they will still leave you for this.

You still haven’t mastered simple economics.


Investing in a stock that completely tanks has a better return than investing in what you believe is love.

The idea is always better than the reality.

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The truth always hurt and realizing now that love doesn’t exist will help you cut the bullsh*t and get you to concentrate on achieving your goals. When eating filet mignon, you are so enthralled in the taste that you actually forget the goriness of the slaughterhouse. Although the idea may seem comforting and intriguing, the reality never works out as you plan it.

If you plan on being powerful, prepare to pay.


No one wants to be a pedestrian and one way of ensuring this is making sure you have no distractions. For your hard work, there is nothing more rewarding than treating yourself to some good grade A pussy. If you want to be powerful, you’re going to have to prepare yourself for a life of mistresses.

At the pinnacle of your success, you’re going to want the 2014 La Ferrari not the ’64 Chavelle with a great story and new paint job.


While the ’64 Chavelle will make for a great piece in your garage at home, you don’t want to be seen with it day to day. There are certain things that you have to understand, being a man of great taste and great wealth will only bring you to the world of gorgeous women other men only dream about. At 64, you’re still going to want something that’s younger, faster and tighter.

No matter how good the morning head is, it will never buy you the home of your dreams.

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There is nothing quite like starting off your day with some good head; however, you must know that this is only keeping you from achieving your dreams. If you want to achieve all that you have set out for yourself, then you will have to keep yourself from getting comfortable. If you get too comfortable, you will never reach the life of your dreams. Get your nut off and keep it moving.